Grief is the last way we get to love someone, and I bet you will always love Lance. Grief is also exhausting, because it requires extra EVERYTHING. My older brother died suddenly almost 3 (!) years ago now, and my grief is an evolution, both terrifying and at times wondrous. It is constant and it is exhausting. But I am determined to feel all of its angles and to hopefully learn and grow from it.
Holding space in my heart for your grief, and all the ways you're feeling it.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My dad was also acquired after my birth and I identify with some of the things you said about watching peoples relationships from the outside. I’m so happy you were able to navigate thru it and really enjoy him as a parent. I’m sure his legacy will live on and you will share him with your baby! Sending you love and light! Pls hug your mum from me- XoD
I feel the sadness but I feel the love more! Being a stepmom myself, I sometimes wonder how my step kids will speak of me. You've shared something beautiful to me. If you don't mind, may I ask what made you open to loving Lance when he entered your lives, amidst the normal hesitation within a blended family?
Ahh, but I've learned you can feed grief.💕 Why do we take over food to families in mourning? Why do we stand around, wishing we were helping, while noshing? It's love. Food 'can' be love. May his memory be a blessing.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and process. For me grief and loss never completely goes away, it just becomes a small scar that aches occasionally. Mostly, it is as you say . . . You witness something or have a question and so want to turn to that missing loved one and share your thoughts or get an answer. But the thinking about them and sharing their stories with others (and your children!) is good - salve on the scar.
Grief is the last way we get to love someone, and I bet you will always love Lance. Grief is also exhausting, because it requires extra EVERYTHING. My older brother died suddenly almost 3 (!) years ago now, and my grief is an evolution, both terrifying and at times wondrous. It is constant and it is exhausting. But I am determined to feel all of its angles and to hopefully learn and grow from it.
Holding space in my heart for your grief, and all the ways you're feeling it.
I’m so sorry for your loss. My dad was also acquired after my birth and I identify with some of the things you said about watching peoples relationships from the outside. I’m so happy you were able to navigate thru it and really enjoy him as a parent. I’m sure his legacy will live on and you will share him with your baby! Sending you love and light! Pls hug your mum from me- XoD
I feel the sadness but I feel the love more! Being a stepmom myself, I sometimes wonder how my step kids will speak of me. You've shared something beautiful to me. If you don't mind, may I ask what made you open to loving Lance when he entered your lives, amidst the normal hesitation within a blended family?
Ahh, but I've learned you can feed grief.💕 Why do we take over food to families in mourning? Why do we stand around, wishing we were helping, while noshing? It's love. Food 'can' be love. May his memory be a blessing.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and process. For me grief and loss never completely goes away, it just becomes a small scar that aches occasionally. Mostly, it is as you say . . . You witness something or have a question and so want to turn to that missing loved one and share your thoughts or get an answer. But the thinking about them and sharing their stories with others (and your children!) is good - salve on the scar.