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Last week I asked y’all to share why you love your best friend. There were (as expected!) so many beautiful responses. Here’s a compilation:
She tells me the things I don’t want to hear but need to hear. Plus she makes a mean Paloma.
She’s not afraid to be herself! It inspires me.
When we are together we cultivate a safe space for our inner child.
She is the ultimate hype woman.
She drove for over an hour on a Tuesday to see me perform in my community choir.
She finds the light when I am in the dark.
She is the best poet I’ve ever read. And has the most beautiful calming voice.
In thrift stores she will look for stuff for me and what she brings me is always amazing.
She tried to fight a guy, ripped his shirt right off his back bc he called me fat.
She always buys me cheez-its and my favorite champagne when I come to visit.
She’s my favorite person to road trip with.
She is sunshine personified.
She’s always looking for ways to make my life better.
Her ability to stay herself while raising a family.
We knew we were soulmates when we bonded over crazy bread.
She will find a way to have a good time if we are sitting in a dark alley. And her true listening & support.
We have been next to each others sides for all the good and bad things for 17+ years!
When she opens a bag of chips she’ll always offer you one first.
She reminds me that I’m worthy and deserving of love. And to not settle for less.
We talk the best shit together. She is the most loving, supportive person I’ve ever met.
She’s the Daphne to my Velma.
He lets me rant about my interests and reminds me I don’t have to apologize.
She is as loose as me and never judges my poor decisions.
She has loved me even when I couldn’t love myself.
She feels like home. We’ve been BFFs since 2nd grade. I’m most authentically me w her.
She gives me knowing looks when words don’t do it.
She knows me and loves me like family.
She never passes judgment on me even when I do the dumb thing.
She’s stunning, never judging.
Genuinely always have been there for me and are just so gentle and kind.
She always carried a tide to go pen.
They believe in me more than I believe in myself.
He’s there for me when things are good or bad. It’s simple love.
I have many of them - soul sisters that light up my days.
They were the only person who comforted me when I cried all day in kindergarten.
When I call her sobbing she tells me “WE are going to get through this”.
I just love him sooo much he’s the absolute best!
He is the most supportive, encouraging person in my life.
She is the best human. Always there when I need her and never has a mean thing to say.
I can talk to her ab anything, including that sometimes she’s not the person I need to talk to.
He is infinitely loyal, loving, generous, forgiving, and nurturing. I can’t believe I got so lucky.
We bonded while peeling beets while volunteering in a soup kitchen.
She pushes me to go outside my comfort zone and we both love garbage reality tv.
She knows EVERYTHING about me and still loves me.
I know unconditional family love & family b/c I know her. We write love songs/poetry for each other.
She *always* shows up for me the way I need her to - different from what she would need.
He’s my husband.
She taught me how to be myself and how to be independent.
She understands me and never judges. She’s kind and passionate.
We can be open about our grief in very real ways. She is supportive, hilarious, and incredibly talented.
She has the perfect butt, and personality to match. She’s pure magic. My soul mate.
Because I never thought someone would understand me until I became friends with her.
Because she constantly reminds me there are good people in the world.
So kind and authentic and encourages me to be the same.
We are hilarious together and she never judges me.
We always want the same menu items and she is always down to order both and split.
She’s fearless.
She knows that we grow together & not apart.
I’m so lucky to have 2 who lift and light me up even tho I’m on the other side of the world.
She makes me little gifts at random.
I can be my full and authentic self without thinking about it.
They always listen, support, and love. They feel like family.
She was the first person to make an effort to be my friend after she graduated college.
Hearing her laugh or seeing her smile feels like sunshine.
She feeds my delusions.
She won’t let me forget my worth for even a second.
She had continuously shown up for me and loved me, even on my hardest days.
She made up my bed for me at our Airbnb after a long ass day. So sweet.
She’s my little sister.
She is the most selfless and generous person in the world and is truly making lives better.
She’s always there for me but calls me out on my shit (lovingly).
She’s sending me pics and texts so I can travel with her during my cancer treatments.
She’s absolutely kicking ass and taking names in grad school and I’m so proud of her.
She makes me feel seen, known, and loved.
She understands the difference between listening to me vent/offering advice.
She’s cool, consistent, loyal, fully intelligent.
She’s there to call me on my shit kindly & help my work through stuff in a diff way.
She’s so mentally strong and patient.
Every time I hang out with them, I’m reminded of what it’s like to be loved so deeply.
They make me feel at home.
She just *gets* it, especially my humour.
She takes no shit from anybody and stands up for me like a pit bull, I love her to bits.
Even tho we’re across the world from each other (last 10 yrs) we still FaceTime every month.
She makes me laugh until I cry.
She refused to let me drop her, even when my depression in grad school was isolating me.
We take care of each other, and she’s always there when I’m feeling down, sad, lost, or angry as f**ck.
It’s still interesting to talk and learn about 25 years.
They are so goofy and know how to have a good time with life.
She never ceases to amaze me with her lofty goals and abilities to achieve them.
We both feel that our 30+ yr friendship has been one of the best parts of our lives :)
We bake pies together, and also she’s an amazing person.
We see each other so clearly.
I feel her love no matter where we are.
This is too hard! I just love them, k?
She bought me flowers my first Mother’s Day and a spa day for my second Mother’s Day.
She’s always very understanding and gives advice like she was the wisest person ever.
She’s an amazing cat mom!
I can tell her ANYTHING.
She isn’t afraid to set boundaries.
She’s driven to my home in the dark to help me through a ptsd attack when I had a sick child. Ride or die.
Knowing her has had a more positive impact on my life than anyone else I’ve known.
We have lived 4,000 miles apart for almost a decade and still talk every week.
She’s always down for an adventure (and loves to plan them, so all I have to do is go!)
I don’t have one yet but I know we’ll find each other soon.
She is so generous with her time and gives thoughtful gifts.
She’s been my person for 26 years. She’s always been there and supported me. Always.
She pushes me to do things I want but am too scared to do.
She always makes me feel loved. No matter what.
She is the one I ask all my Big Life Questions to and we can process together!
She knows me as well as I know myself and can offer perspective when I need it.
I could tell the most boring story and she listens like I am the most interesting person on earth.
She is my soulmate. And both our husbands know that.
I’m having a bad day. While I was out he showered and met me at the door with my fave healthy meal.
She is my platonic soulmate.
They make me feel seen more than anyone else. I’m most myself when I’m with them.
They always at least try my midnight impulse baked goods.
When my father in law died, she cooked comfort for us and left it on the porch.
We got our first apartment together. We’d make forts and eat pancakes and wine for dinner.
When I told her my abortion story, she hugged me & told me she loved me. I felt so safe.
She is realistic and not afraid to laugh at herself. She doesn’t take life too seriously, either!
Detail oriented and smart, it’s like a bunch of sisters.
The most creative! She can take trash and a hot glue gun and make something marvelous!!
She helps me always!!!
She celebrates the little things like they are the big things.
She loves the earth and finding ways to improve mental health with nature.
She’s a fierce world traveler who immigrated to another country. Also her curls are fab.
She’s so funny and calm.
She’s a bilingual queen who’s gonna f up the corrupt carceral system as a defense attorney.
She has seen me at my worst and only loved me more. Even from across the country!
When everyone else judged me, she never even batted an eye through it all.
20 years later we’re still best friends! Maid of honor in her wedding end of June!!
15 years of best friendship, often separated by half a country, and she still makes me laugh like no 1 else.
She absolutely never, never, judges. Not me. Not anyone. She is safe.
Even 1k miles away she still makes time for me and makes me feel special.
She lets me just be…me. No judgment.
She has a super kind soul!
She loves trying new things with me.
She listens and loves me unconditionally and never judges.
She started a trend of getting our group matching shirts so we always feel connected.
When I was struggling she reminded me who I truly was, “the fiercest kindest woman she knows”.
She came with me to get my IUD placed when I was too scared to go alone!
He is the best D&D dungeon master I’ve had and is still a literal ray of sunshine!
He is really fun to get stoned with.
She’s an amazing, inspirational woman who doesn’t let the hard stuff get her down.
She makes everything in life make sense without telling anyone what to do or passing judgement (& more).
She is my person and I love that we have been by each other through so many life stages.
My best friend continually shows up for me. They make me feel seen, loved, and valued. I never have to doubt my place in their life. They open their home to me. They take my calls, whether it’s 1pm or 1 am. They count down the days to when they get to see me again.
She makes a long distance friendship effortless - I love her so much :)
He can walk into any room and have everyone feel connected to him. It’s such a rare gift!
We’ve been through so much life together. From ravers to suburban mamas lol.
Before my wedding, she flew out to visit and set up a whole spa day for us. She’s the best.
She just *gets* it.
She’s the perfect balance of sweet kind angel baby & bitch, and she makes me laugh so hard.
She knows me better than I know myself.
No matter the distance, we always find a way to make a surprise visit to see each other.
She always gives me the time and space I need.
She’s so smart and tries so hard!
She was there for me when I was getting out of an abusive relationship.
She’s my whole world. My support system and is the love of my life.
She’s flying across the country to dog sit while I elope with my partner in Croatia.
I can be in the worst mood ever but go pick her up and be healed instantly.
She dresses up as beaker for our STEM job!
She’s always there to celebrate my high moments & to help me through the lows!
She is always there. Always. And I love her for more that more and more each day.
She’s the smartest funniest woman I know.
He brings my brain back to a positive reality, and it saves me everytime.
She came and talked to me about gardening when my dog died.
She FIERCELY advocated for me to my doctors when they didn’t take my health seriously.
FaceTimed me from the toilet to show me a positive pregnancy test.
Her kindness knows no limits.
I have a big group of female friends that are so encouraging & warm. I love them all dearly.
Everything she says out loud sounds like prose.
I LOVE THIS PROMPT.
She inspires me to be more creative.
When he gets excited he bounces in his seat. Apparently he’s done it since he was little.
I have no shame telling her anything. She is so judgement free.
When we were in middle school, she threw iced tea in my bf’s face bc he was being mean to me.
Of her compassion, empathy, and kindness!
She remained loyal to me when I left the religion we grew up in & lost a lot of other friends.
They are always there to talk me down off the anxiety cliffs and reassure me.
She is my mirror. I feel so seen and affirmed by her - and so lucky to do the same for her.
She’s infinitely kind.
She is so unapologetically herself, she loves me in the way I need love, she is radiant.
She’s so funnyyyyy.
Laugher with her just hits different.
They know my taste as well as I do!
We can be our true selves with each other. Never any judgment, just full on love and support.
What if we saw ourselves through these gorgeous lenses?? What if we believed it?
some notable (and less notable) things
I was a guest on the wonderful food podcast/community for parents and busy family cooks, Didn’t I Just Feed You. I loved my conversation with Meghan and Stacie, and would love if you listened to it!
I’m in my strawberry cream cheese on everything era and maybe you should be too.
I’m (finally) in the second trimester and let me tell you - what an improvement!!
I visited Paper Route Bakery with my friend and looooved Chef Aaron’s truly artisanal creations. If you’re in Austin and need cake, definitely recommend.
weekly abortion affirmation
Mifepristone is safer than Tylenol, Viagra, and penicillin.
my current fave pic of Otie
xoxo,
your favorite becca
things that permanently live at the bottom of my posts:
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