"my bf and I made 2 pounds of homemade mac & an 8 lb ham just for us"
and other selected secrets/sparkles
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remember, in this context:
secrets are the shadowy things that we want to share but might be tempted to hide because of shame/fear/social obligations.
sparkles are the things that make you feel most alive - little moments of joy/satisfaction/contentment that you wish you could bottle up.
click here to submit your own secrets/sparkles anonymously anytime.
loosely defined themes of the week: pursuing new projects/dreams, leaving old things behind, unrequited love
secrets
short & sweet/salty:
I have a crush! A very messy one!
I’m so tired of my partner’s aging dog.
Almost done w/ my second year in law school and wondering if I even want to be a lawyer.
36 yo mom of 2 & have no idea who I am. Lost in motherhood. I feel like I’m having an identity crisis.
I told my best friend I loved him and he said he didn’t feel the same way.
Amazing job putting yourself out there and expressing how you feel. That’s really, really not easy. And I’m sending you love.
My ex partner was horrible for me but I miss them more than anything.
I’ve been with men all my adult life. Went on my first date with a woman. It was amazing.
I gave up on a dream from two years ago to go all in on another one.
I made your brownies for the first time and can’t stop eating them!
Try them as an ice cream sundae :)
I spend a lot of my time being hyper dependent on my bf and lately I just want space.
Scared I have to end my relationship because we just trigger the shit out of each other.
I have a major crush on my boss and we’ve started smoking weed regularly together.
I’m crushing hard on a coworker while my partner and I go through a rough patch.
I have a huge crush on my piercer who I go to often and really want to tell her.
Wanna hook up with someone but I’ve never had a one night stand before so idk how.
My friend owes me big money that I need but it’s so uncomfy to push about it.
I’m 14 weeks pregnant and absolutely terrified after the sudden loss of my firstborn last year.
I miss my guy best friend so much since my husband & I moved. Prob not healthy.
I’m dreading my birthday later this week bc I haven’t accomplished much this year.
Starting marriage counseling this week and part of me wants to run away and start over.
I’m in love with him but I’m too scared to tell him.
Tried on clothes at Target and then violently sobbed in my car after (body issues).
The girl I was in love with started dating a boy. I feel betrayed. She wanted to explore sexuality.
I’ve been seeing someone who’s ENM and I’m so fulfilled by the possibilities.
Need to schedule an appointment for a POTS diagnosis, but relieved to finally know what it is.
I’ve been feeling so lonely, and nervous about the outcome of my ADHD eval.
Hubby got laid off. It’s for the best, I hope he gets a job where he is truly appreciated.
I am really wanting to get pregnant soon and really terrified I won’t be able to.
I am a 24 y/o female and have brain cancer :) - prognosis is good thankfully.
I feel like my best friend hates me.
I’m scared I’m going to lose myself again.
Bf & I agreed not to live together even though both our leases are up, pretty bummed.
I really wish my boyfriend would propose already.
29 weeks pregnant and so over it. Everything hurts, exhausted but can’t sleep. Just miserable.
Haven’t slept a full night for months (depression). Everyone thinks I’m so happy.
I’m 30 and I just had sex for the first time. I’m feeling so vulnerable and tender and raw.
Wanted to buy my mom a 12 ft skeleton and they sold out and I am an inappropriate level of sad.
I’m having panic attacks and every time I’m sure it’s a heart attack. I’m so on edge all the time.
I’m 2 months clean. It’s been really hard. No one knows.
My bestie and I fell out. I don’t miss her. Blessing in disguise.
Friend’s shitty bf proposed & she said yes & I’m scared it’ll tear our beautiful friend group apart.
For the 1st time in her 2 yrs of life my daughter prefers her dad at all times and I’m a lil sad.
I’m not over my situationship 4 months later.
My mom is making me really sad with how selfish she is.
I feel like I made a huge mistake moving away from the community I love.
I don’t know what to do with myself if I don’t have a crush on someone.
My food anxiety is so draining. I’ve yet to meet a therapist who understands.
Agreed to an ENM relationship & can’t see a scenario where I don’t get my heart broken.
I dread going back to teaching tomorrow. I can’t tell if I’m unhappy with career or my current job.
My town is too small and I run into ex-hookups everywhere. My partner has no idea :(
I want to be in a relationship, I feel like I’d be a good gf.
I’ve had hyperemesis my whole pregnancy and I’m so miserable and in pain. I wish I was happier.
I miss being in a throuple.
I kissed someone else and my partner found out. I’m scared he will never forgive me.
Finances are terrifying. Am I ever going to get out of debt? Will I own a house?
I wish people would ask how I’m actually doing. Mental illness sucks butt and its lonely.
I think I’m reconsidering the decision to have kids after not wanting them for my entire life.
I hate my brother’s new gf.
I developed singles at 34, my body is yelling to quit toxic situations and respect my needs and limits.
I’ve been on two dates with a guy but I get really good vibes so now I’m anxious af that I’ll mess it up.
My crush is interested in either me or one of my besties….He knows I like him.
Afraid I’m not going to find a job before my unemployment runs out.
I love my job (social worker) but I hate the pay & am thinking about going into a diff field.
I really wish I could go back in time and not get a puppy.
Broke up w my ex 1 year ago however I just cried because they seem to have found another person.
Feel guilty for leaving my job in education but I hope it will be better for my mental health.
My best friend’s bf is proposing to her TODAY!!!!
I’m not sure I love my husband anymore or even like him.
I’m not good at my new job. Don’t know if I’m more afraid of being fired or constantly feeling mediocre.
Considering a break from my relationship.
I’m transferring unis and I feel like I’ve wasted the past two years of my degree.
I recently realized that my mom has been the main reason of all of my emotional insecurities.
I’m in love with the girl I’m dating but haven’t said it yet bc I’m scared.
Fear is making my life smaller. But I don’t want a small life. I think it’s just comfortable.
A good friend is engaged to a loser.
I am sad because I feel lonely living alone in a big city with no friends.
I want to make out with a girl.
College is killing my mental health!
Long distance is killing my mental health.
I work for the super wealthy and it’s soul draining.
I won’t be able to make rent this month and I’m scared to tell my roommate.
I social media stalk my ex and I think he’s talking to a girl :(
Scared that I have no place in the baking community bc I’m so out of practice.
I’m pregnant and I’m very happy but also very nervous.
Back in college for a 3rd career change. I feel like a failure, but I can’t go back to teaching.
Ended things w the love of my life because he stopped putting in effort and I’m devastated.
Having a crush on my favorite barista and I’m too scared to talk to him apart from ordering coffee.
I regularly fantasize about my boyfriend’s best friend.
I’m waiting to find out if I’m getting arrested or not and I’m trying not to vomit constantly.
I get incredibly panicky thinking about accidentally running into my old friend-with-benefits.
Kinda sorta in love with my best friend.
I have to get my pap redone because the sample was poor. I cried the whole time.
I miss the person I was pre pandemic.
I keep dating guys and hitting a wall when it comes to anything physical…confused and scared.
I am about to make a big mistake but can’t stop myself.
Several friends having babies and the FOMO is real.
sparkles
short & sweet:
My best friend was working on a cruise but she’s home tomorrow and I’m so excited!
I get to see my mama tomorrow for the 1st time in 5 months. Longest we have ever gone!!
I’m back home after a 3 week work trip. Missed the people, pups, & this place.
Applied for an internal promotion!!
I got a 100% mark on a uni essay - my first ever and it’s on my dream niche.
Applied for my first apartment!
A sweet forehead kiss at the end of a very long day.
My anti depressant is working.
I returned from maternity leave and love my job! Also the last sparkle I submitted was “I think my baby is coming this week”, so time is amazing!
Split the cost of flowers w/ my mom so we could make a floral arrangement just because.
Made the maple cookies for my partner and my coworkers and they’re OBSESSED. as am i.
Loooove this - they’re my absolute fave recipe in Baking by Feel!!
I used to HATE my job. Now I just hate it.
Receiving my AA degree with honors and transferring to university at 36. Never too late!
So so proud of you!!
Today was my 5 year anniversary at my company and my manager threw me a surprise party!
I got my yoga certification.
Absolutely killed the final interview for a job I really want!!
Saved an orphaned baby bird today.
Met a new girl friend literally just on the street today after she complimented by dress!!!!
Getting my IUD this Friday.
I am just over 2 weeks cigarette free.
Amazing!! I really admire your strength and resilience!
I’m having my baby tomorrow!
Started working on an abandoned fanfiction again and it’s bringing me so much joy!
Bought new shoes.
I’ve started my conversion to Judaism and I feel like I’ve finally found my place!
He asked me to be his girlfriend!!
I’m seeing my partner tomorrow!
I passed my thesis defense and my advisors want me to expand it to a book.
Incredible!!! Congratulations!
My bridesmaids surprised me with a bridal shower, it was beautiful <3
Had the greatest weekend celebrating a friend’s birthday!!
I’m almost 25% of a DVM! 3 more years to go.
Got to speak Spanish with a customer and help them. It’s difficult but feels so good!
I booked a hotel and drove 3 hours to see my fav band alone bc I’m an adult and I can.
I fell in love with reading again this year and have devoured 12 books already.
One of the kindergarteners I work with keeps telling me I’m her favorite teacher.
About to graduate in June!
I’ve started making art again and it brings me so much joy.
It’s the first 70 degree day in months and I finally got to run outside for as long as I wanted!
Had a rly tough convo w/ a friend today - it went so well!
Took a break from school for a trip this weekend and feel much better now.
I earned my PMH-C!!!
I made a MUCH needed appt with my gyno today that I’ve been putting off for months.
Me and my boyfriend had our first fight and I feel like it was really healthy.
I’m leaning into platonic love and it feels really nice.
Therapy and reading feminist books is really helping me feel empowered again.
I’m giving myself permission to quit my toxic job.
Two doctors advocated for me today and it meant so much.
My wedding is one month away.
Seeing two dogs who looked alike meeting and becoming friends and playing rambunctiously!
Premarital counseling has been AMAZING for my partner and I. I feel closer than ever.
I graduate with both my undergrad degrees tomorrow.
I finished 3 years of uni yesterday! Only 1 more year n I can pursue my passion.
Today is my 10 year sobriety anniversary!
So wonderful!!! Congratulations!!
Quit my job two weeks ago and am currently happily unemployed for a bit.
I bought a condo <3
Spring flowers.
Got a hysterectomy today - it was not as bad as I thought it would be. Proud of myself for handling it, and taking time off to let myself rest and recharge.
I quit my toxic job and am closing my laptop for the last time ever!!
I got married last week - I get butterflies each time I get to refer to him as my *~husband~*.
I got my work crush a postcard from Japan & he hung it up by his family photos.
I will need updates about this!!
First (non gas related) smiles from baby girl.
My group chat with far away pals has been full of pictures of blooming flowers lately.
Making my own spring bouquet from the local flower truck.
One of my poems was accepted for publication this week.
First solo trip ever starting in a couple days, super excited!
I got an offer from Cambridge to study a PhD there!
xoxo,
your favorite becca
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