"I’ve only been talking to this guy I met on a dating app because I want to meet his dog"
and other selected secrets
remember, in this context:
secrets are the shadowy things that we want to share but might be tempted to hide because of shame/fear/social obligations.
sparkles are the things that make you feel most alive - little moments of joy/satisfaction/contentment that you wish you could bottle up.
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loosely defined themes of the week: exes,
secrets
Going through my first heartbreak and it is so so hard.
I want to leave my long term bf for a woman but I don’t want to split up our family.
Recently moved to Seattle from NC, scared that it won’t work out and all of the “what ifs”.
Loved celebrating my best friend’s wedding this weekend. Hate that it also fills me with jealousy.
Hubs and I separated this past week and I’m already thriving again.
I started a new job 4 weeks ago and I hate it and want to quit.
I don’t know if I’ll ever want a romantic relationship and it makes me feel broken.
Feeling like I’ll never find the good one.
Pregnant with my bf of 4 months and we’re so excited :)
Everyone seems to have disappeared after my baby arrived. I’m hurting.
Have a mild cold but going to exaggerate it to get out of working this week.
I’m pushing my husband to move so if we ever get divorced I don’t have to stay in this town to coparent.
My boyfriend needs help and I don’t know how to give it to him.
I’ve been making the recipes in your cookbook instead of drinking and it’s really helping.
Love this love you <3
My bf, who I believe is my lifetime partner, doesn’t want kids and I do.
I want kids, my bf doesn’t want kids, and I’m scared he won’t change his mind.
I spent last night up late crying because my husband called me crazy for having anxiety.
I’m not sure I like one of my best friends anymore.
The IVF was more successful than our wildest dreams. We have *multiple* embryos.
My new friend is married to a trash human & I have the hardest time keeping my opinions to myself.
I’m on a 2 month personal leave from work because I was stressed, no one knows but my husband.
I’m seriously considering selling pics of my feet to make more money just to build savings.
I’ve never been more grateful for my period but this first one post MA sux.
I keep fucking other men to forget about my ex but I still want him.
I’m almost 6 months pregnant and I still haven’t told my mom bc she sucks. I’m 38.
I think my best friend is in love with me and I don’t feel the same.
Just got out of a six year relationship two months ago. Hoping for good change soon!
My boyfriend didn’t want to see me for his birthday and I’m hurt.
I’m still in love with my ex and we are still best friends and I feel confused all the time.
I want to quit my job so badly but I’m afraid I don’t belong anywhere else.
I’m considering ending a 20 year friendship bc of how she acted when I told her I was getting an abortion.
I’m in love with my married friend.
My gut tells me my long term ex is back in the dating scene and I know that’s not wrong but ouch.
I need someone to tell me not to date the coworker I’ve had tension with for months.
I have almost everything I’ve ever dreamed of in life and I’m still depressed.
Struggling with infertility and have so much resentment for my bff’s unplanned pregnancy.
Pretty sure my baby is coming this week and I just went into panic mode.
The relentless GLP weight loss ads on social media and streaming are getting to me.
I’m addicted to food and it’s so hard to eat less.
Told fam I’d give my home state a chance, been here a month & already planning to leave in a year.
I desperately want to have an affair.
My best friend’s mom doesn’t like me and I don’t know why.
So many of the moms at my kid’s school are chilly to me, I don’t know why, and it bums me right out.
I’ve been catching feels and attraction for my boss.
I found out my supervisor cheated on her wife a week before I left my job.
I stalk my exes gf using anonymous Instagram stories.
Want to leave my healthy relationship for my ex who my family hates.
I think my 6 year relationship with kids is over.
I just met a really nice guy and I really want to be his friend…or more than friends.
I just travelled with a friend of 25+ years. It was so hard.
I held an abortion party this weekend to support FL amendment 4
Can’t stop obsessing over a guy I hung out with once.
I am married with kids and dream about dating exes constantly.
When my husband talks about football I want to scream. I hate it.
I am a strong independent woman. Although, I desperately need attention from men.
I don’t actually want to get another job but I don’t really have a choice. Unemployment is ending soon.
My only therapist I ever liked just quit her job and I feel hopeless.
Sometimes when things with my partner feel hard I worry I’m wasting my time.
Sometimes I feel like nobody really knows me.
Had a 1 month long situationship 3 months ago and am still majorly hung up on it. He drove past me on my way home Friday and now my brain is convinced it’s *a sign*.
I had sex with my ex alllll weekend.
I had a dream about my “almost” from high school joining the army & it turns out he actually did recently.
11 years in, I don’t know if I like the career I chose anymore.
Pretty sure I have PDD (just learned what that is) and it’s ruining my life.
My bf + I are moving together and I’m more nervous than excited.
My friend’s husband made a pass at me. I’m going to tell her just not sure how or when.
I tracked my bf’s location yesterday and he was at a jewelry store.
My cousin told me he’s proposing to his gf who I LOVE.
I’m in love I’m in love I’m in love.
I’m going to have amazing sex on Tuesday.
I’m terrified that my wife is going to die from her cancer.
I actually hate dating again.
I’m realizing how fucked up I think my family is.
2 days after my husband told me he’s ready to go to rehab I had a + preg test. Using Plan C.
I’m with a sweet and caring man but I am SO bored by sweet and caring.
I’ve had 3 abortions and I don’t regret a single one.
Mom told me she’s thinking of filing for divorce after 2 years and I want to say I told you so.
Idk if I am sad or relieved that my bf broke up with me - I thought I would be devastated.
I just broke up with my nice bf to see if my ex wants to get back together.
My 5 yr old starts kinder tomorrow and I'm sad because he's getting so big, but also completely relieved to have a full day of work for the first time since the pandemic.
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