remember, in this context:
secrets are the shadowy things that we want to share but might be tempted to hide because of shame/fear/social obligations.
sparkles are the things that make you feel most alive - little moments of joy/satisfaction/contentment that you wish you could bottle up.
click here to submit your own secrets/sparkles anonymously anytime.
loosely defined themes: blurred lines in friendship, disappointment, transitions are the worst
secrets
Just had an abortion, my bf wasn’t really there for me now I feel so unloved by him.
Motherhood is just a bunch of fucked up magic. Like all the time.
I feel like my partner isn’t taking all these horrible things happening seriously.
My husband got laid off and as much as I will happily support us, I miss my alone time.
I’m kind of glad my daughter went back to college. We don’t get along anymore.
My roommate is sick and I’m kind of annoyed because I really don’t want to get sick again.
My friends really hurt my feelings this weekend but I don’t think I’ll tell them.
I fell. It was worth everything.
I bought a sex toy today!
Found a new celeb crush and it’s making my feel like dogshit as they always do.
In my first relationship at 27 and my bf makes me feel so hot and loved and happy.
(On background: bi & poly) I love my bf but I’m afraid if I tell him I’ll feel like I’m betraying my much-loved gf.
I dream of being on my own, even look up apts and consider if I can afford life w/o a partner.
I am in love with my best friend’s other best friend and I am too scared to tell him.
A coworker said something really critical of me as a person last week & I can’t let it go.
I don’t think my husband is attracted to me & it breaks my heart.
I’m relieved my aunt is about to pass bc it means she won’t be in pain anymore (stage 4 cancer).
I’m in love with my best friend and sometimes I think that’s OK and sometimes I think it’s not
I never thought I could hate and love someone at the same time.
Going to go to the dentist for the first time in 20 years, scared but hoping to smile again.
My son gave me a whole new reason to live and taught me what true, unconditional love is.
I (unfortunately) had to have two very important, but difficult confrontations with the in laws.
Casual sex isn’t fulfilling for me in the way it used to be and I’m not sure how to grieve that.
I’m scared to get a job after being unemployed for so long.
I’m 36, single, relocated, and…am pregnant. I had an abortion at 22 but now feel mum ready!
I recently started pelvic floor PT for my vaginismus and I’m terrified it’s not gonna work.
One of my friends died. I feel like I need people to know that I knew her as much as they did.
I hate my dad.
My niece sucks, I don’t want her near my daughter, I can’t stand her parents and I feel awful for that.
My husband takes better care of me when I’m sick than I do when he is. It grosses me out.
I feel like my husband and I are slowly falling out of love with each other. It makes me sad, but also not.
I feel like a failure. I’m still so poorly after years of trauma therapy.
I got furloughed.
I think going to law school was a mistake but I’m more than halfway through.
Everyone thinks I quit but I’ve been secretly smoking for months.
Might get kicked out of the country I’ve lived in for a decade, I’m terrified.
I’m planning a Know Your Rights event for my neighborhood even as my work contract says I can’t.
Stopped giving my sister all my people pleaser attention and I think it’s helping our relationship.
I feel like a bad friend for not checking in with friends more but these days I’m just…
I’m dedicating paid time to school so I can leave the corporate world.
My roommate just found out she is currently experiencing an ectopic pregnancy w a new IUD.
I’ve been grieving my 3rd abortion + my partner subbed to my friend’s OF behind my back.
I’m probably going to lose my job because of the new administration and I’m terrified.
Every day I mourn who I was last year, even tho I’m happier now.
I think I met the love of my life and I’m horrified of fucking it up.
My partner and I are planning to elope!
I’m grieving my sister. We were so close, but I’ve had to step back. Her beliefs are harmful.
I got a PTSD diagnosis and I feel so validated.
I am in love with my new boyfriend but I think he’s an alcoholic.
My ex got engaged and I am lowkey sad. I can’t stop thinking about the ‘what ifs’.
I’m having the worst time dealing w the forest fire in my town, so many mixed feelings.
I tell people I have a pineapple allergy so I don’t have to eat it (I hate the taste).
I think I may be a bad mom…my child is fed and healthy, but I feel like I’m not doing enough.
I’m moving to Belfast tomorrow and only told my family!
We’ve been accepted for a new house and I’m so so scared to move.
Took secret PTO and spent a solitary day indulging in things I love.
I’d go to prison for my beliefs; my husband won’t even vote for his.
Bff who ghosted for 2 years is back, wants to be friends. Confused. She feels like home.
I’m jealous of/resent my husband for going to work while I’m on maternity leave.
I can’t celebrate my friend’s pregnancies while women’s rights are shit right now.
I need to leave my husband but I don’t want to.
My best friend is pregnant and I’m not happy for her.
I just took a pill after. And I hope it will work and I will not get pregnant.
Broke up with my bf cuz he is a cheater & liar.
I’m 5 weeks pregnant with my second child! Terrified and so happy!
I love my bf. But I wish he would get off the couch & get a fkin job.
Moving next week and I’m so very anxious about packing and the whole process.
Love,
Becca