"I love that I’m starting to get wrinkles by my eyes."
and other selected secrets/sparkles
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remember, in this context:
secrets are the shadowy things that we want to share but might be tempted to hide because of shame/fear/social obligations.
sparkles are the things that make you feel most alive - little moments of joy/satisfaction/contentment that you wish you could bottle up.
click here to submit your own secrets/sparkles anonymously anytime.
loosely defined themes of the week: courage, second chances
secrets
short & sweet/salty:
My baby sis is pregnant and I’m jealous it’s not me.
I’m worried I’ll have acne until I die.
I just got laid off and I feel ashamed even tho it wasn’t my fault.
I’m definitely getting taken advantage of but I love him and can’t stop giving.
I just got laid off and I’m so lost. My identity was so wrapped up in that job.
When I was 4 I was in love with a friend of my older sister…met him 20 years later…still in love!!
My partner & I eloped yesterday morning!
I think I’ll move to be with my best friend whether my wife wants to join me or not.
My husband and my cat both have whack sleep cycles and I’m exhausted and fed up.
Can’t stop thinking about the guy I ghosted a few weeks ago.
I miss my cheating ex partner so much every day even 10 months later. Idk how I will ever get over him.
I’m seeing my fuck buddy for the first time in a few months and I’m so excited.
I’m dreaming about being pregnant.
I think about other people when my husband I have sex.
I longed to come see my fam but now I have HUGE amount of anxiety - big mistake.
I miss the spark and excitement from when my husband I first started dating.
I think my boss is a narcissist.
I’m not actually no contact with my ex boyfriend and we’re still having cyber sex.
I resent the people who disappeared when I got long covid.
I white lied out of necessity but feel icky. I try not to ever lie, gives me anxiety (Virgo).
I have a brain tumor and acting like I’m not scared but I’m terrified.
Impatiently waiting to go into labor, REALLY terrified of being induced.
I emotionally spent a lot of $$$ and have to tell my SO, but it’s giving me so much anxiety.
My adult daughter is mad at me. I say it doesn’t bother me, but it’s crushing me inside!
I’ve worked really hard to get where I am in my career and I want to give up.
I put an offer in on a house and my boyfriend doesn’t know the seller accepted the offer.
My partner’s work stress has killed his libido and it makes me feel hideous and unwanted.
Traveling with my sister and her husband. I cannot stand him.
I’m letting a man take care of me for the first time in my life and its pretty amazing.
Last year my husband told me he wanted a divorce.
I finally figured out how to masturbate (hello mid-30s) and omg.
I’ve had 4 diff jobs in the last 13 mos. The instability & constant change has been so hard.
My parents are coming in June to visit family and I don’t want to see them…
Being FULLY single is so hard I feel like I have to daydream about love interests just to get through the day.
Lonely and touch starved af.
I proposed to my partner and now can’t stop thinking about my one that got away.
I conditioned myself to feel nothing when things get hard. I feel like a shell of a person.
Chronic pain sucks.
I think I am addicted to a prescription medication.
Been since since 2020 and I think it’s great honestly.
My best friend needs mental help and won’t see it/admit it.
Renewing our lease and idk how to ask my roommate to pay more of the rent.
I feel so defeated by my chronic illness.
I’m so mad at my husband for leaving all the care of his mom to me.
I have a crush for the very first time. And I don’t know what to do. I just think about him all the time.
I’m scared that I’m unlovable.
Seeing my hs ex’s sister this week, kinda hoping the ex is single.
I stalked my ex’s insta and I feel bad I hurt him.
I love my partner but I question whether they are “it” for me.. & think a new friend might be.
I haven’t checked my bank account in days and I keep spending $.
I find myself resenting my parents for turning me into a third parent for my younger sib.
I was lonelier at my friends wedding than my solo holiday.
I’ve fallen in love with a guy who’s shorter than me.
I don’t think I will ever be happy.
I have fomo & feel like everyone’s day was more exciting than mine even tho I had a lovely day.
Tomorrow is “test day” after our second round of IUI. I’m so anxious and scared.
I feel like I’m growing up and away from my best friend - and I’m happy about it and at peace.
I am sick of my flatmate’s bf here all the time. I want them out.
Since I gave birth I think a lot about divorcing.
I’m so sick of seeing everyone else buy houses while I’m constantly struggling to keep up with high rent.
We just signed a 15mo lease but are counting down the days until we move back east.
Sometimes I just wanna sell all our stuff and move to Thailand!
I met someone amazing but I’m worried my body dysmorphia will make me sabotage it.
I’m having seizures and hone of my doctors can figure out why and I’m so so scared.
My bravery is starting to exhaust me.
I’ve been on a work trip and I can’t stand to look at my coworkers for another minute.
I can’t stand the way I look and I’m fighting withdrawing myself from social gatherings.
I’m way behind on a draft. Already asked for an extension. It’s due in 2 days.
I’m casually seeing multiple people and idk who I want something serious with…
I think my boyfriend is a manchild.
2 of my bffs got into relationships + haven’t talked to me since. I have 0 friends.
The guy I’m seeing has been visiting fam for weeks & sent me spicy texts for 1st time.
A former friend of mine ignored me in public. We’re in our late twenties.
I’m hosting friends for the 1st time at my new house and I’m a little nervous.
My ex-boyfriend and I split up a year ago. I still think about him and miss him every day.
We’re trying to sell our house and it’s not going well and I am terrified.
I’m moving out on my own this August with no financial support and I’m terrified.
I have come to realize I do not like my brother, he kinda sucks.
I think I’ve lost half my friends and don’t know how.
I love that I’m starting to get wrinkles by my eyes.
I’m scared I’m going to stay in my unhappy marriage bc it’s easy.
I’m about to go meet my partner’s parents for the first time…and we’re in a gigantic fight.
My partner of almost 2 years and I broke up. Feeling lighter.
TTC for baby #2 but secretly worried how it will impact our lives.
I just want to be a SAHM but my parents gave up a ton to send me to college as as firstgen.
I’m in love and I’m scared.
My family is moving after I just moved for them and I’m resentful of the cost and worried about money.
Whenever my husband says he wants to move to our home state I panic and cry.
I miss physical touch so much.
Some of my partner’s friends don’t like me and I feel the same.
I have to work a second job I HATE so I can afford being a bridesmaid in my sister’s wedding.
A guy I spent with (regret) keeps posting anti-trans rhetoric and I want to hit him with a car.
I want to dump my bf so bad but I don’t know how to.
I’m 24 and hurt my back and I’m terrified this is going to be a life long pain.
I hate owning my own business but don’t know what else to do.
I’m convinced I’m ace but everyone around me thinks otherwise & it’s frustrating.
I quit my job in March because they screwed me over and I love not having a job so much.
I’m not happy in my relationship but everyone else loves us together.
My aunt’s bad planning has become my problem and I’m stressed OUT.
I’m planning a wedding rn and in some ways I am wishing we would have just eloped.
I’m starting on anti-anxiety meds today and I’m scared of the adjustment period.
I want another baby but sleep deprivation takes my mind to a really dark place…
Ghosted a toxic friend, feel a little bad but also feel finally free.
Slept for 14 hours today lmao.
I may have a heart condition and it’s so hard to wait to get the test results back.
I’m stuck in an abusive relationship again and I’m ashamed and terrified.
I like growing up.
Turning 40 this year and feeling fucking amazing.
I told my best I loved him and he said he didn’t feel the same, and I feel so free now.
long-form:
The guy I’m hooking with up is married. He doesn’t know that I know and I haven’t told anyone. Found out he was married after the second time we hooked up. Initially wanted to tell his wife (especially considering they were only a few months into their marriage) but I was worried about what he might do and honestly the sex was good. Now I’m in too deep, it’s all so fucked up.
My husband fell out of love with. me but won’t leave because having me be a SAHM is cheaper than paying child support and alimony. I feel so lonely and touch starved.
My best friend has recently started dating someone and I feel like she hardly replies to my messages any more. It's difficult to find time to hang out with my busy schedule and I feel so bad when I can't meet up with her.
I’ve gained weight and people are making comments. I’m trying to stay strong, but as someone who’s struggled with an eating disorder the majority of my life, it’s starting to get to me. I just hate people sometimes.
sparkles
short & sweet:
My daughter turned one and I actually enjoyed the party!
Finished building my dissertation committee for my PhD!
Graduated with my masters!!!
My partner playing “you’ve got a friend in me” to my 80 y-o grandma on her birthday.
Getting the hang of a 2 year old and a newborn!
Sitting outside in the sun reading a book!
Last day of school!!!!!
My 2yo niece showing off her newborn baby sister.
I went to a spinning class and it was so much fun, can’t wait to go again.
I am starting anti-anxiety medication for the first time in my life today.
My husband and I heard our baby’s heartbeat for the first time today.
Addition to my sister’s labour: she had her baby girl last night and she’s perfect <3
I went to a spinning class and it was so much fun, can’t wait to go again.
My ex is still not valuing my needs/only considering her own and I set a boundary.
I got a new oodie and it’s SO cosy.
Pride month begins!
My son defending his long hair against kids claiming it should be just for girls.
I can walk to the repair shop where I dropped my car off tonight so it’ll be easy to get back tomorrow.
Participating in community garden really fulfills me.
My sister telling me how she plans to propose to her gf.
My friends and I just booked an airbnb for our month in greece.
I had a massage today and my entrapped ulnar nerves got a lot of TLC!!
One of my students had his redemption arc this week in class. He’s going to pass.
First attempt at Swiss meringue buttercream turned out perfect! I needed a win this week.
Decided to get my nose pierced at 37 because why not?!
Danced barefoot on my rooftop in the moonlight.
So much time with so many dear friends these past weeks and next weeks.
My ex apologized!!! It’s a relief I didn’t know I needed.
Played uno with a 5th grader for like two hours of my shift today! We laughed so much.
A hummingbird has nested in my patio lights.
Having our baby on Friday after 5 losses.
The person I’m into has been talking to me a ton lately.
Reading a really good book right now cozied up on the couch.
Going out with a girl that I really like and I think she feels the same, she makes me feel warm.
Going on a first date Saturday and I’ve got a good feeling about this guy! I’m excited.
Finally finishing up my college degree and feeling so proud of myself.
New bakery next to my house finally opened and I celebrated with a croissant!
The ted lasso finale was chefs kiss flawless 15/10.
My 6 year old daughter confidently asserting a boundary!
The way the baby I nanny pronounces my name.
I was accepted to my graduate program!
Me and my sister and my mother (who is now divorced) went to a concert of a singer and we met him!
I called out of work and slept until 5.
Making hash browns from scratch with my LDR partner.
My daughter started saying mama more today!
Sent a bunch of postcards to friends since I’m gone for a bit and they started arriving!!
Hearing my partner say they’re proud of me after doing hard things.
I have a retired man on my team & on his annual eval he wrote ‘I like being here’.
I have a new cat that I found living by my apartment building’s dumpster!
Went to a romance bookstore with my bff over the weekend!
My LASIK procedure got approved - no more glasses!
Got a new job and got to view the apartment I’m moving into today!
Found out today that I’m having a baby girl!
Exciting career changes are about to happen. It is bittersweet. But I am ready!
My work (my period blood pics) got selected to be in a gallery w/ artists that are in the MOMA.
Today was my last day of a job that was draining me!
Big professional milestone today, won’t mean much to anyone but I’m celebrating!
I broke my wrist yesterday but the person I’m newly dating has taken such good care of me.
I have an interview for a job I’m quite excited about tomorrow.
I had to give a speech on short notice in front of politicians today and it went okay!
I’m on my way to Amsterdam for my first trip abroad with my best friend of 28 years!
The man I’m dating is so consistent and kind it’s baffling - who knew this existed?
I just got married on Saturday and am so incredibly happy.
Local poetry event made me feel so alive.
I am feeling the most confident I’ve felt in YEARS.
I, like, never think babies are *that* cute but my friend’s baby is so cute!!
Waking up to snuggles from my partner + baby after loss/infertility. A dream come true daily.
I just moved into my first apartment.
I get to see my best friend on Friday! It’s been a year since we were last together.
Interviewing with a job that seems exact opposite of my current toxic workplace.
I finally had a consultation for a breast reduction after wanting one for 10 years!
My roommate made me coffee and brought me sliced fruit in bed while I’m feeling sick.
Finding rhubarb at the store after weeks of searching for some.
Went wedding dress shopping for the first time and I’m so excited to marry my person.
In a safe relationship for the first time in my life and it feels so nice.
I’m going to pride this weekend & I thought I’d never go again after my breakup!!
We leave for our honeymoon tomorrow and we CAN’T WAIT for alone time!
long-form:
This last semester has been a big struggle, but graduated from my community college and will be transferring to university. I’m not taking any classes this summer, so I’m really excited to have a break and get back into my hobbies again! Also, I’m leaving the country today (to Italy) on my first “solo” (with a tour group) trip and I’m so excited! I can’t wait to eat all the yummy food and see the sites.
Switched doctors in January and my new doctor has done more for me in the last 5+ months than my previous doctor did in the 3 years I was with them. So happy I switched!! *happy tears*.
xoxo,
your favorite becca
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