"I am so excited to get divorced"
and other selected secrets
remember, in this context:
secrets are the shadowy things that we want to share but might be tempted to hide because of shame/fear/social obligations.
sparkles are the things that make you feel most alive - little moments of joy/satisfaction/contentment that you wish you could bottle up.
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loosely defined themes of the week: overwhelm, loss
secrets
I lost weight and now men are kind to me for the first time in my life. I hate them.
Retirement plan is taking shape. End of this year. Scared but excited!
Huz can’t cum anymore, won’t seek med help. So we don’t do it. He’s like ok that’s that. I’m 45. He’s younger.
First depressive episode in my relationship. We’re learning how to manage together.
I have everything I want and I’m depressed.
Set postpartum boundaries with my father/fam. Reactions were hurtful and disrespectful. Feel less than, but my healing is important & I don’t have to “share” my baby yet.
I got my dream internship. We have to move again.
I’m a doctor, a mom with a 7 month old. I don’t want to ever go back to work. I am confused.
I just started anti depressants and I’m scared they won’t help.
Seriously miss smoking weed but can’t b/c of work.
Pretty sure partner’s family doesn’t like me but I don’t like them either.
My biological mom died recently and I don’t care. At all. I’m trying to act like I care but I don’t.
My boss singles me out all the time and I’m starting to get fed up.
My bf and I broke up weeks ago but we haven’t told our families bc they love each other.
I think I’m pregnant - I’ve been trying for a year now and hope its finally happened.
I met someone who makes me feel held & free, seen & loved and he is moving to FL.
I think I’m doomed to never find a supportive partner and it kills me.
I need to break up with my partner but I hate that I’m hurting them.
My brother will only interact w me (text, phone, in person) w his wife present. I’m sad & mad.
Recently diagnosed with Bipolar 2 and it’s been a roller coaster of emotions for me.
Lowkey sad my sister got pregnant AGAIN (4th time) while I can’t conceive.
Falling in love with my situationship but he’s leaving the country in June.
My kitten has seen a Dr more often for checkups in the last year than I have in the last 4.
I got married last fall & I changed my surname to my partner’s, I miss my name a lot.
I’m going back to being single at 42, I’m happy and scared at the same time.
My best friend is depressed and I’m afraid I’ll never get them back from the void.
I’m afraid my physical capability won’t return after birth.
I feel like such a beginner, and I’m 61.
I had an abortion in the Netherlands. It was a nice feeling not to be judged.
I hate my body.
I hate living with my sister.
Had my second embryo transfer 2 days ago. Wishing so bad that it sticks this time.
Sometimes idk if I’m recovering or just growing more into a hidden but disordered routine.
I am ditching my friend for abandoning me for a man.
I am so tired of mothering my mother. It’s exhausting.
I opened my relationship with my fiancee and fell in love with the first person I slept with.
I’m so overwhelmed I want to drop out of my MA program but my advisor is so encouraging.
I’m going to surprise my boyfriend with a stargazing trip.
I’m scared to start dating again. The apps are scary.
I’ve been counting down the days until I’m no longer a teacher.
I’m making a year plan to leave my bf I currently live with. I’m scared and overwhelmed.
I have a crush on my friend but I’m too scared to do anything to jeopardize our friendships.
I am getting out of an abusive marriage. If you’re in one, just know you are strong enough to leave!
My grandmother died and I’m so happy she’s gone, mostly for my mother’s sake.
I had a massage and it made me so sad no one has touched me in years, other than little hugs.
Being married to a man and crushing on a woman has confirmed my bisexuality.
About to separate after a 7 year relationship and 4 year marriage. Afraid.
I really like him. Haven’t felt this way since 2018. Scared to pieces.
My husband (9 yrs) is nowhere close to the best sex of my life (not bad, but not the best).
I wish my friend would leave her toxic partner. I’ve pulled away over the years and I miss her.
My family, partner, and my friends forgot my birthday and I don’t have the energy to address it with them.
“I’m so tired” doesn’t even begin to describe how I feel.
Started setting the same boundaries w/ parents that I do in dating & it’s HARD.
I don’t like my own mother.
I think my bf of almost 6 years and I are falling out of love together.
I’m extremely anxious about having sex ever since the overturn of Roe.
I have so much to be grateful for but can't find one thing to be happy about. I terminated an unplanned pregnancy last week. Having his kids in the future was always something I wanted. I haven't told him either, yet.
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