happily pregnant & more pro-abortion than ever <3

the majority of people who have abortions are already parents

Jun 27, 2023

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There’s a pervasive (and entirely bullshit) anti-abortion narrative that says that having abortions somehow precludes you from parenting. That having abortions means you don’t love your children. That having abortions is inherently contradictory to building a loving and supportive family. Of course, that’s all made up. The reality is that the majority of people who have abortions are already parents. The reproductive justice framework includes the right to parent, with safety and support. There is absolutely nothing contradictory about having abortions/being pro-abortion and being a parent.

As you know, I’m pro-abortion and have had an abortion. And as you probably know, I’m currently pregnant (and want to be this time!). This week I posted this photo on Instagram with the caption “Happily pregnant & more pro-abortion that ever vibes”

In typical Sweet Feminist loving community fashion, there were really beautiful and affirming comments from y’all. Many of you shared your experiences with your abortions, pregnancies, and parenting. And I wanted to share some of those comments here!

I didn’t think it was possible to become more pro-abortion than I already was and then I had a miscarriage that was physically and emotionally mega-traumatic due to abortion laws (even though the embryo was 100% no longer alive) and I saw things in a completely new light. And then I didn’t think I could be more pro-abortion than that, and then I went through a whole pregnancy and childbirth and saw things in a whole new light. And then I didn’t think I could be more pro-abortion, and then I became a mother and I saw things in a whole new light. I think my mom was absolutely certain that I’d turn “pro-life” when I mourned the baby I lost, when I had a pregnancy that made it full-term, and when I held my son in my arms. I’m not at all sorry to disappoint her there.
Years of infertility, 5 miscarriages, and 3 successful babies later and I will riot in the streets for choice.
I enjoyed telling people, while pregnant, that I was naming my son after Canada’s abortion hero, Henry Morgentaler.
I’ve never had an abortion but I was pregnant and when I went with my friend to get hers, and I would do it again!
I remember I was pro-abortion and my conservative family all said “wait until you’re a mother, you’ll see” and then I got pregnant and had my son and I’m more pro-abortion than ever. That experience should NEVER be forced on anyone who isn’t enthusiastically choosing it.
Pregnancy made me even more pro abortion than ever. I chose it and it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Birth was easier than pregnancy. Wouldn’t want anyone who didn’t choose it to have to go through that.
I have 4 kids and I will riot in the streets for reproductive freedom.
My pregnancy only made me even more pro-choice! Even a much wanted and loved (and medically uncomplicated pregnancy was absolutely W I L D. That should never happen to someone’s body without their consent.
2 months postpartum over here and over the moon to finally be a mom. As strongly pro abortions as ever.
Currently struggling with possible infertility, and people always assume that because of my situation I’m pro-life. NO!! I genuinely do not care if another woman has 72747947473 abortions. I support 100%. No one owes me a baby because of my struggles.
I had an unplanned, yet welcome, healthy uneventful pregnancy, which made me realize how much of a privilege that was, and that no woman should go through such a process, unless she wants to.
As a fellow pregnant woman, I am very much with you. Never had an abortion and while this pregnancy was never unwelcome, my pro-abortion beliefs just got stronger. Pregnancy is no joke.
When I was 5 months pregnant with my daughter someone told me I’d change my mind about being pro choice once I held her. I said “I doubt it. The 4 miscarriages I had prior to this only made me more emphatically pro choice.” I wasn’t wrong.
I work in reproductive health and rights and was pregnant with my first baby when Roe was overturned last year. I’m more pro-abortion than ever.
Becoming a parent has made me even more pro choice. My kid is my favorite person and also I cannot imagine doing this without actively choosing it.
Nothing has made me more pro-abortion than having two challenging pregnancies, two miscarriages, and, of course, the actual parenting.
I had a normal & very easy pregnancy, and then had to be hospitalized twice postpartum for preeclampsia. I’m more pro-abortion than ever now. Pregnancy and birth are a health risk and nobody should be forced to take on that risk.
Having 2 kids has made me radically pro-abortion.
Going through severe preeclampsia and postpartum preeclampsia aka almost dying in and after childbirth made me more pro choice than ever…then having emergency gallbladder removal and liver damage a month later was the cherry on top! Esssh!! Mamas for Safe Abortions for Everyone!!!!
Nothing strengthened my support for abortion more than carrying a wanted pregnancy to term, birthing and caring for an infant, and becoming a parent of a toddler.
Going through abortion/molar pregnancy/birth I have to say that the birth of my child was by far the most traumatising experience of my life and I would never ever force my body to do that again and neither should be any woman on this planet.
I’m a mom and pro abortion. I believe in each person’s right to their own body choices.

some notable (and less notable) things

Summer recipe recommendation: the strawberries & chocolate cookies from Baking by Feel. You can make them with either white choc or dark choc and they are equally delicious.
I ate something truly delicious last week: a watermelon with a hole cut in the top, the contents blended in the watermelon itself to make watermelon juice, + lime juice, served with a straw. 10/10. I’m going to try to make it at home and will update you.
Abortions Welcome is a pro-choice spiritual companion for use before, during, and after abortion.
- “We know that many people who have abortions are people of faith, and it can be hard to find affirming and compassionate spiritual resources online in a sea of religious anti-abortion extremism. Our dream is for this site to be a resting place, a sacred space of comfort and care for people on their abortion journeys.”